The Voice in My Head Used to Sound Different

I used to believe everything I told myself.

Every single thing.
If I said it in my head, it was true.
I didn't doubt it.

I didn't leave any room for change.

What It Used to Say

I have a hyperactive mind.

I relive conversations.
Over and over.
Analyzing every part of them.
Did I talk too much?
Was I too weird?

And alongside that, a steady stream of other things.

I'm so lazy.
I can't finish anything.
I'm not a very creative person.
I'm not an artist.

I never stopped to ask if any of it was true.

The Moment I Noticed

It took someone else to point it out.

And that's when I started noticing.

How badly I was talking to myself.
How unkind it was.
How blocking.
It was all such limiting language.

That's not the way I talk to the people around me.
So I decided it's not going to be the way I keep talking to myself.

Retelling It

The change didn't come immediately, or drastically.

I had to practice it.

I would catch the things I was telling myself.
Start examining them.
Asking questions about them.
And then find a way to retell them.

Instead of "I can't" or "I'm not good at it," i
t becomes "I'm learning." "I'm enjoying the process."

Instead of "What are people thinking about me? Are they judging me?"
it becomes "What do I think about myself?"
"Am I happy with myself?"

That shifts the perspective, from the inside.

Now, when an unkind thought about myself shows up, I don't believe it straight away.
I can redirect it.
Adjust it to what I actually want to believe.

Showing Myself

When I made room for myself to change the things I wanted to change,
and to believe the things I decide,
not just the things I'd been believing my whole life,
that's when I could start building up evidence.

I was showing that voice in my head that it can change.
That I can stop talking myself out of doing hard things.

Every time I did, the old voice had a little less to stand on.

Why It Matters

All of that negative self-talk keeps you where you are.

It keeps you from moving.
From doing things.
From trying. F
rom failing.

This understanding changed so much about my life.
So I'm passing it along.

Always, always, always talk good about yourself.
Always talk positive about yourself.
Always tell yourself you can do it! ✨